A cure for the fear of gift-giving
Many times, I will think that I want to give someone a present, but then when I go and do the shopping, anxiety starts to hit. Whatever item I pick up seems to feel too little, or not personal enough. Will I get the wrong present and reveal that I do not know them well at all? Is if the gift is too extravagant or uncalled for will make them feel awkward when they have not done the same? Or “How in the world am I going to show my successful, baby-boomer parents that I love them and am thankful for everything they have done for me since before I was born in one not-breaking-the-bank gift?” I guess I have a lot of fears when it comes to gift giving! Can anyone relate?
When I feel the fears mounting and I am tempted to throw the towel in and just start crossing names off my list, ( “ah, they aren’t expecting a gift anyway…”), I am reminded that a little kindness goes a long way.
A little kindness goes a long way. I am reminded that what I really want is for people to feel loved and cherished. And thought of. I am reminded that my goal is not actually to make sure I have all of the boxes checked on my holiday to-do list. I am really trying to show people that they matter. I am not actually trying to “do everything right” so that people are impressed with me or accept me. The main idea behind “the gift” is to celebrate life and to show the recipient that they are remembered and loved.
If I remember these things, I am more likely to be generous and to give gifts without apologizing. If I remember that a little kindness goes along way, I will give even when the gift feels too small. Because when I am giving gifts, it is not about me, it is about showing others that they are loved.